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Living together unmarried: split costs 50/50, or by income?

Context:An unmarried couple has lived together in Shenzhen for over a year. One takes home 25,000 CNY a month, the other 12,000. The one-bed flat costs 6,000 a month; utilities, groceries and household items come to about 4,000. Each saves separately; there is no joint account.

Fifty-fifty
Unmarried partners share the same flat and the same things, so each pays half — clear accounts keep them equals.
Bottom line:Before we're married, no hidden financial dependence or one side propping up the other — each pays half and you pay for what you use. I won't budge on that.
By-income
Split costs in proportion to income, so each carries what they can afford and the relationship stays balanced.
Bottom line:I will never accept a straight 50/50 split; costs must be shared in proportion to income.

What each side conceded

By-income:admits that under a 50/50 split the lower earner still has about 7,000 CNY left after paying 5,000, so they are not actually strapped.
「我承认,按 AA 平摊,收入较低的一方支付 5000 元后仍有约 7000 元可支配,生活并不拮据。」(B3,replying to A2)

The one thing still unresolved

Shared costs: "same benefit, same share", or "bigger income, bigger share"?
Fifty-fifty:「没领证前绝不接受变相的经济依附与倒贴,各付一半、谁消费谁买单是我绝不退让的底线。」
By-income:「我绝不接受完全平摊的方案,必须按收入比例分配开销」
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Full 3-beat replay(6)
A1 · Fifty-fifty · Beat 1 · Original
两个人住同一间一居室、用一样的水电、吃一样的菜,享受对等的居住品质,凭什么收入高的就得替对方的日常底线买单?月薪1.2万出5000后还剩7000,在深圳完全够体面生活加存钱,根本谈不上被压榨;非要按收入比例分就是没领证先搞财产共有,多掏钱的觉得在扶贫,少掏钱的在家里直不起腰,只有各出一半谁也不欠谁,两个人才能真正平等。
B1 · By-income · Beat 1 · Original
他月收入 2.5 万,她月收入 1.2 万,若均等分摊每人 5000 元,低收入者只能剩约 2000 元,存不下钱甚至生活拮据;按 2.5:1.2 的比例分配,租金 6000 元中他承担约 3800 元,她承担约 2200 元,4000 元的日常开销再按比例分配,他付约 2600 元,她付约 1400 元,两人都能保留原有的储蓄计划,经济压力更均衡,也更能维系关系的和谐。
A2 · Fifty-fifty · Beat 2 · Original
账先算明白:一万块总开销平摊各出五千,月入一万二那位房租水电吃喝全包了还净剩七千块,在深圳怎么就生活拮据存不下钱了?没领证又各自存钱,高收入是人家自己的劳动所得,凭什么非得为对方的开销兜底?要是真按出资比例分摊,那租房选址、日常花销的决定权是不是也按 2.5:1.2 来算?这种看似温情的比例制,只会让多出钱的心里憋屈,少出钱的在家里抬不起头。
B2 · By-income · Beat 2 · Original
按比例分摊并不是把同居消费变成‘税’,而是合理匹配支出与收入。如果仍然均等分摊,收入低的一方只能剩下极少的余钱,长期会导致经济压力和感情摩擦。比例分配让每个人的负担与承受能力相符,既公平又能维系关系的和谐。
A3 · Fifty-fifty · Beat 3 · Original
两个人享受着完全一样的一居室和柴米油盐,掏完五千明明还净剩整整七千块,在深圳既谈不上吃紧更算不上委屈。没领证就搞按收入打折分摊,本质上就是在用恋爱关系道德绑架多赚钱的一方去扶贫,少掏钱的没话语权、多掏钱的心里憋屈。只有权责对等的一人一半,两个人才能不带算计、平起平坐地把日子过下去。
Bottom line:没领证前绝不接受变相的经济依附与倒贴,各付一半、谁消费谁买单是我绝不退让的底线。
B3 · By-income · Beat 3 · Original
我承认,按 AA 平摊,收入较低的一方支付 5000 元后仍有约 7000 元可支配,生活并不拮据。但按收入比例分配,双方的经济负担与收入匹配,避免高收入者长期承担显著额外压力,保护双方的财务独立与关系和谐。
Bottom line:我绝不接受完全平摊的方案,必须按收入比例分配开销

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